He told her to choose carefully who she spent time with, just as she would with a member.He said she should accept an invitation for a first date and then invite the person to a church dance or activity for the second date (if she wanted to).The girl is supposed to remain calm and unassuming when asked, but the girl is so rarely asked that she automatically jumps to the conclusion that the guy must REALLY be interested. In this stage you may not have any real ties to anyone (except for maybe your “wing-man”) and so you look to see if there is anyone who seems to have that certain charisma you’ve been looking for that you can add to your list of “potentials”.Which in turn keeps the guy from asking out any other girl for fear that by doing so his simple invitation to get ice cream will be misinterpreted as a marriage proposal. Now this is the phase where the dating game becomes broken, because it is so easily misunderstood…or forgotten altogether.Its a vicious cycle that can be easily avoided by understanding the 5 Stages of Dating. Dating is the stage where you review your list of “potentials” that you made from the hangout phase and you go with one person off that list to breakfast in the morning and then perhaps, you accompany a different “potential” out to dinner the next night.Some may call that being a “player”, a term that has such a negative connotation to it; defining someone as callous and insensitive to the feelings of others, and purely in the dating game for their own selfish purposes.
It makes the remaining friendship awkward at best, and humiliating at worst. People suffer through this in the hope that the object of their affection will eventually buckle and reveal his or her true feelings. They keep making up excuses to hang out, hedging all their bets and waiting for God to give them a sign.
While I was doing research for , the biggest complaint I heard from Christian women was that Christian men weren't assertive enough.
They described men who drove them crazy by calling and hanging around while never asking them out on a real date.
One problem with "hanging out" and "hooking up" is that they don't seem designed to lead anywhere. As the average age of those who marry gets older and older, and the average age of childbearing gets older and older, are we sure we are OK with it?
The new "traditional wisdom" is that you have to finish college, get some financial independence, maybe have a house …